Part 2: might have to respecfully say u are not into that kind of lifestyle or play an that u would like to just stay vanilla and be friends maybe. I dont know the situation romanticly between u two so that might not be possible. But all i ask is dont sprea the poison that someone is wrong or fucked up because they like bdsm. When done correctly it can be a freeing and amazing thing.
Oh, please, please, please don’t misunderstand. (Here I am all teary again.) I don’t think that someone is wrong or fucked up because they like BDSM. If that’s what I thought, I would have walked away long ago without even making an effort. It’s just that I still haven’t been able to wrap my mind around certain things, and I can’t help or anticipate or avoid the emotions that get stirred up inside me when I see these things depicted on his blog. Actually, the words you’ve used - “pet play” - are helpful. When you put it that way, I can maybe almost see it. This is precisely why I’ve put all this out there - not just as a self-indulgence, and certainly not as a condemnation of BDSM, but as a way of tapping into the wisdom of those who know more about it than I do.